When I was not a good cook...many of my sufferings were utterly spoiled by mismanagement in cooking and so were not tender and good.
Sometimes I kept them constantly in hot water: sometimes try to freeze them by my carelessness. Sometimes kept them in a stew until they dry and became more irritating and pointed.
I was totally ignored by the fact than that any suffering can be tender and good when so managed and they are really delicious when prepared properly.
In selecting what suffering you should cook, you should not be guided by the silvery appearances of any suffering : nor by the golden tint as if you wanted a best suffering. Treat them as all of them are same. ...hmm...if any suffering is getting away from your eyes take a look again...they might come back with more force and power. Besides your heart is their home.
Do not go to the market for them as the best ones are always brought to your heart's door....hmm
Be sure to select them yourself as they all tastes differently. It is far better to have none unless you will patiently learn how to cook them.
hmm....the frying pan of the finest porcelain is best only if you have nothing better than pressure cooker. Like crabs and lobsters, sufferings are cooked alive. They sometimes fly out of the frying pan and so become burned and crusty on the edges, so it is wise to keep pan covered with a strong silken cord called TOLERANCE.
Make a clear, steady flame of love, warmth and cheerfulness. Set them as near this as seems to agree with them. It will prove your ability to accept your sufferings.
If sufferings sputters, do not be anxious, for some sufferings do this until they are quite done.
Add a little sugar in the form of what confectioners called TEARS....your sufferings love them but use no pepper or vinegar (cursing other for your suffering) on any account.
Avoid sharpness in testing them for tenderness. Stir them gently, lest they lie too flat and so become useless.
You can not fail to know when they are done. Once they are done you will find them very digestible, agreeing with your heart perfectly.
And they will be in this way as long as you choose unless you become careless ans allow the flame grow cold. It can arise them again.
So cook your suffering to get rid of them. At least try....hmmm....thats what I am doing too.