Saturday, July 9, 2011
In an ideal world there would be peace; a life of contentment and complete satisfaction.
There would be no bitterness...no grudges....no problem.
We would all get on with each other...never have a crossed word...always have a smile and a cheerful greeting.
But no one lives in an ideal world...no matter how much they'd like to think they do.
I knew someone once who told me she and her husband "never" argued.
I didn't believe that for a minute; he was particularly arrogant and she idolised him so I guessed she was stretching the truth somewhat.
I've never been one to argue; confrontation to me is pointless and usually results in falling out... holding a grudge or finding yourself on the slippery slope of bitterness.
Not a nice place to be.
I don't have many personal friends; most of my friendships are online and many are with people I'll never meet in person.
But I do hold all my friends in high regard and value each one.
Holding a grudge is like pressing the pause button on ones life.
When I got divorced in 2004....it wasn't because we fell out...it wasn't even because we didn't love each other anymore.
We simply drifted apart even though I still loved him and cared a great deal about him.
He went to live on his own, started a new life.
And all I missed was our friendship.
He moved on faster than I did...let me be honest....and I blamed myself for that.
I can’t say that I did nothing wrong to trigger a break up.
Though…as far he desired I was not at all compatible enough to be his wife…
But what is so comforting about that part of my life is after he left me...I understand ME…
....hmmm....what I want and what kind of people would love and respect me and knowing that if I don't move on with my live too....then what hope is there for the future.