I have 7 nieces and nephews - eldest 15 years old and the youngest three years old.
I love them all. I think they are the most adorable cutest lovely pies that's ever come into this world.
But...I know that's my personal....bias and subjective opinion. I don't force my friends and strangers to like or talk to them.
This subjectivity however...hmm....is not so obvious for most people I met (recently).
What does people expect me to say when they bring in their er... not so good looking kids to me?
'oh.... kitna cute hay' (oh.. so cute) or
'oh...buhat he pyara hay' (oh...so beautiful)
hmm...when obviously...I don't think so?
I mean....that will be lying through my teeth....right?
Once...I had someone who brought her kid to me who obviously had a major running nose and 'strips' as thick as the 'yellow river' were flowing out of his nose.
She wanted to push her baby at me for a hug!!!
I gave the kid 2 light pats on the head with my stretched hands and walked off saying 'haan pyaara hay waqayee'...
Another time on an outing...this same kid insisted he wanted to do a karaoke. All the rest of the adults had to indulge the kid and not only listened to him sing silly repetitive songs for about 20 mins but had to clap as well saying 'wah wah buhat khoob'....
hmm.....have you ever noticed how adults behave like babies when they see babies?
Everyone just gathers around the baby and go 'wooooing and cooooing' and making lots of funny baby noises?
I kid you not ... the adults were definitely more excited and losing control when compared to the babies –
I know that not being a mom....I probably am not qualified to understand a mother's love.
This is why I avoid the pantry and office lunchbox where most conversations are about nappies...milk powder...best schools....most nutritious food....best tuition center....best child performances etc...(ie: child-centred conversations)
There are some of us who genuinely want to be left alone. I mean, I have 7 nephews and nieces already.
That's enough for me. Yes…there are times when I really like a kid but the kids who knows that they are beautiful and adorable are usually not friendly type…they also keep their distance when come to you and normally don’t like adults to touch their checks…or to pat them on the head.
So…people…leave it to the other people…hmm...if you think your child is beautiful and adorable…people will themselves come to the child and pat or hug...
hmm...otherwise accept the truth…your child got your features.